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  Modern life: less relationships, more pornography

From the Raw Story
 
A partner is increasingly unnecessary when it comes to sex, in the view of a growing number of Dutch people who choose to go solo or find something stimulating on the internet. A new large-scale survey that compares sexual behaviour today with that of 15 years ago has found that six out of 10 couples now has sex only once a week or less. In 1991, that figure was four out of 10.

The researchers from the Rutgers Nisso group acknowledged the difficulties in surveying sexual attitudes and practice. The results may also have been skewed by the fact much of the data collection in 1991 was done face to face, whereas the new survey made use of the internet.

This may have enhanced another finding: that many people are reaching for the internet for sex, whether watching pornography or finding real or virtual partners for erotic stimulus, and satisfaction.

More sex behind the computer, less within relationships. I thought that might be the case, but where is this leading? researcher Ine Vanwesenbeck said.

She found that 80% of men used pornography, with two thirds doing so at least once a month. The fact that the use of pornography is normal, in statistical terms at least, means that judgements on whether it is harmful are difficult to make.

The finding that 40% of women did so too was perhaps more surprising, although only half of them did so regularly. The better educated the woman, the more likely they were to look at pornography.

The survey found that three quarters of women masturbated, 18% of them at least once a week, and that the use of sex toys was on the rise, with four out of 10 ten making use of one.

But one finding contradicted perceptions of widespread promiscuity in an increasingly sexualized social environment. Only a small minority stray from their long-term partners - even fewer than 15 years ago, when the AIDS scare was at its height.

In the six months before being asked, only 7% of those surveyed had had sex outside their firm relationship.

From The Guardian
 
An increasingly adventurous attitude to life in the bedroom by British consumers has led to an 18% surge in sales at Durex, part of SSL International.

A series of new sex toys such as a vibrating penis ring, a spaceship-shaped stimulator and "tingle" condoms helped SSL increase first-half group profits by 9.2% to £18.9m.

The company is hoping to further boost sales of its Durex Play range with a slew of product launches, and from December 1 will advertise its vibrating ring on British television.

The advertisements, which will go out on channels 4 and Five but only after 11pm, feature a man proposing to a woman, substituting the usual diamond engagement ring in the jewellery box with its vibrating ring.

SSL's chief executive, Garry Watts, said the marketing was "very tasteful" and that it was daft that the advertising regulator was going to keep it off the air until an hour before midnight.

Sales of upmarket vibrators, costing from £50, have also increased at Durex. But an inhibitor to further growth of these larger models is that SSL's biggest customer, Boots, will not stock them. The high street store continued to sell smaller vibrators, lubricants and condoms. Half of SSL's sales come from the internet, but Superdrug and other chemists as well as supermarkets stock many of the products.

From the Daily Mail
 
One in 10 men admitted they have paid for sex, with around one in five of those repeatedly going to prostitutes.

A study, published in the journal Sexually Transmitted Infections from the British Medical Journal, involved questioning men at a Glasgow sexual health clinic between October 2002 and February 2004. But the authors said similar findings could be expected across the entire UK population.

The biggest concern, they argued, is that men were putting their partners at risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) by having unprotected sex with more than one person.

And the fpa (formerly Family Planning Association) said it was deeply worrying that men played 'Russian roulette' with their partner's health.

The research, carried out by the Sandyford Initiative in Glasgow, involved questioning 2,665 men.

Overall, one in 10 (or 258) had paid for sex, with half of those paying for sex abroad and 40% paying locally.

The majority of those who had paid for sex (66%) had done so in the previous 12 months and a third (35%) had paid for sex in the last month.

Of 173 cases where data was available, 58% had paid only once while 27%r cent had paid for sex on five or more occasions.

In 167 cases, 43% of men had paid for sex while in a relationship and 23.6% of those regularly used prostitutes.

More than half (56%) of men having unprotected sex with a prostitute also had unprotected sex with their partner.

The authors said the findings were not dissimilar to results from the latest national survey of sexual attitudes and lifestyles, which found that 8.8% of the male population had paid for sex at some point.

It also found that the number of men in the UK paying for sex doubled between 1990 and 2000 from 2% to 4.2% of the UK population.

The study did not discover why men paid for sex but Dr Rak Nandwani, one of the authors, said the findings gave an "insight" into people's attitudes.

Dr Nandwani, a consultant in geno-urinary medicine and HIV, also said it was difficult to tell the true prevalence of paying for sex because not everybody would admit to it.

This was in a sexual health clinic, where people come because they have an infection or are concerned about an infection, It's not the same as a household survey but the numbers who admit to paying for sex in household surveys is not actually far behind.

From The Times
 
The first drug for treating premature ejaculation has been successfully tested in the US

Scientists may have come up with the first pharmaceutical means of tackling premature ejaculation — using a class of drug usually associated with treating depression.

In trials involving 2,600 men, researchers in the US have shown that a new drug could prolong sexual intercourse by more than three times the duration previously experienced.

If approved after more tests, the drug will be the first designed to tackle the problem, which is experienced by 20-30% of men.

A “normal” time between penetration and climax, the drug manufacturers Johnson & Johnson discovered, with the aid of obliging couples and a stopwatch, is 7.3 minutes.

Men on anti-depressants called selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors typically complain of dulled sexual sensation and delayed orgasm. But what is a curse for them may be a benefit for others, so Johnson & Johnson set out to develop an SSRI specifically for delaying orgasms.

After trials, Professor Jon Pryor, of the University of Minnesota, concluded that dapoxetine was “an effective and generally well- tolerated treatment for men with moderate-to-severe premature ejaculation”.

by Anthony D'Amato
Northwestern University - School of Law
Published June 2006

Read the paper: Porn Up, Rape Down (pdf)
 
The incidence of rape in the United States has declined 85% in the past 25 years while access to pornography has become freely available to teenagers and adults. The Nixon and Reagan Commissions tried to show that exposure to pornographic materials produced social violence. The reverse may be true: that pornography has reduced social violence.

Thanks to www.OrgasmArmy.com
See www.fpa.org.uk

Every year the fpa, the family planning association, holds Sexual Health Week to influence health professionals, the public and the media about a key topic in sexual health. Its aim is to raise awareness of issues regarding individual experiences and how services are delivered.
What is sexual health?

Sexual health isn't just about methods of birth control and avoiding sexually transmitted infections; it's also about the enjoyment of sexual activity without causing harm to yourself or others. Sexual health means making positive choices for yourself and your partner(s).
Where can I find out more?

The fpa aims to improve the sexual health and reproductive rights of all people throughout the UK. The registered charity's main focus is education, information, training and research. It works with the public and professionals to ensure high-quality information and services are available to anyone who needs them.

For expert advice, call the fpa helpline on 0845 310 1334 (Monday to Friday, 9am to 6pm) or go to www.fpa.org.uk.

From www.OrgasmArmy.com

OrgasmArmy.com is on guard to help spread the message of Sexual Health Week 2006 (7th-13th August). The UK’s first official free online sex toy reviews site with real reviews by real people is on a mission to spread the word of safe sexual practices and ways to increase enjoyment whilst staying safe and protected.

Sexual Health Week 2006, organised by the Family Planning Association (FPA), is all about helping individuals to make positive choices for themselves and their partner. This year the focus is on condoms, looking at how the different ranges on offer can improve comfort and fit. Frequent calls to the FPA’s helpline have shown that men and women experience problems with badly fitting condoms tearing or slipping off, yet many people are unaware that there is a choice of size and shape when choosing condoms.

Obviously there is only one way to find the right fit – but before you start buying you can have a virtual try on www.OrgasmArmy.com. The reviews will give you unbiased insights into each product, and if you have a question that is not yet answered you can post it in one of the forums and wait for a fellow Orgasm Army officer to get back to you with their experiences. And to start the ball rolling we are giving away free Durex Performa condoms at www.LoveHoney.co.uk/freecondom

From 24 Dash

The world's first sex-related 'theme park' is set to open its doors in London's West End this summer.

Amora - The Academy Of Sex & Relationships West End Theme Park is due to open at the London Trocadero near Piccadilly Circus and will occupy over 10,000 square feet of space. Over 600,000 visitors are expected within the first year, with the Academy designed to fill 'a global need for better understanding of sex and relationship issues'.

Combining high tech and interactive exhibits together with new media displays, the Academy will aim to convey health and educational messages in a fun and entertaining way while informing the public about sexual health and relationship developments.

It is the result of 3 years of preparation, contributions from collections from around the world and £7 million in financing - backed by both institutional and private investors.

According to the people behind the Academy, 'titillation is not the goal'. The Academy's Director of Exhibits, Dr Sarah Brewer, said: This is not a sex museum like those in Amsterdam, Barcelona and Paris, which tend to veer towards pornography for commercial benefit alone.

The Academy will have a programme of content to cover themes such as: Sex, Health and Relationships, Sexual Performance Improvement, Erectile Dysfunction, Sex & Alcohol, Aphrodisiacs, Beauty, Romance and Sensuality.

Doctor Brewer added: The proposed development of the Academy is set against a backdrop of rising levels of Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs), I think such a venue is long overdue.

There is an overwhelming need for an outlet that not only celebrates human sexuality and reproduction in an entertaining and accessible way, but one which provides health education within a format that makes it easy - and fun - to assimilate.

From www.LoveHoney.co.uk

LoveHoney boosts safe sex campaign with 10,000 free Durex condoms

Online sex toy retailer LoveHoney is giving away 10,000 free condoms to promote the He Says You Say UK safe sex campaign. The campaign has been designed to get young people thinking about safer sex and, in particular, to equip women aged between 16 and 24 with answers to excuses their partners may come up with to get out of wearing a condom.

The 'He Says You Say' campaign follows research conducted among nurses, health advisers, GPs, school nurses and pharmacists. They said 16-24 year-old women most frequently ask for advice about STIs, such as chlamydia, but many frequently say they do not feel able to say no to unprotected sex – potentially putting their lives at risk and gambling with unplanned pregnancy. Via the campaign website (www.hesaysyousay.co.uk), young people are encouraged to hear reasons males use for not wearing condoms, listen to suggested responses and enter their own favourites

Common excuses used are that condoms spoil the enjoyment of sex, they are difficult to use, that the male will "be careful" and that condoms are not big enough!

The Durex Performa Condom that LoveHoney is giving away contains a special lubricant in the end of the condom that helps to delay climax for men. Durex claims this helps prolong sexual excitement for longer-lasting love-making - but does it really? Let's find out! Get your free condom at www.lovehoney.co.uk/freecondom.

Surely a toy to impress the girls

From We Talk Sex Blog

The Tongue II has received high praise from Redbook, Playboy, and Mens Health. We agree with their reviews and more.

I wish we would have been able to make a video showing you the movement of the jelly tongue - it's very life-like. This tongue is about as close as you're going to get to the feel of the real thing.

The large, white handle is easy and comfortable to hold onto, and the nubbed, jelly tongue feels wonderful and realistic to the touch. The five speeds of vibration of delight, range from a gentle up-and-down motion to full-on orgasmic bliss as it licks and rotates in small circles, just as a real lover would (well, hopefully). Without doubt, we have rated the Tongue II a superior 5* rating!

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From the Daily Mail

Free testing kits for a range of sexually-transmitted diseases could be made widely available on the high street under plans being considered by health ministers.

It follows the success of a pilot scheme under which Boots has given away 6,000 testing kits for chlamydia to young people.

The Department of Health is keen to find new ways to curb rising infection rates, including using new technologies to make it easier for people to get tested. Minister Caroline Flint told the Independent on Sunday that it was vital to make the issue "less of a taboo".

The newspaper suggested kits could be on offer in supermarkets, barber shops and petrol stations, with results sent back to patients - possible by text message.

A DoH spokeswoman confirmed that the idea was being considered but insisted that it was still "early days" and a lot of research into the accuracy of tests was needed. She said: We are trying to normalise testing for STIs [sexually-transmitted infections] and remove the embarrassment factor by making testing available in places like pharmacies. We want to make services more accessible to people and move them outside traditional settings. We are starting with chlamydia - and looking at 16-24 year olds at this stage - as it is asymptomatic and we know it affects thousands of people across England. More research needs to be done on whether handing out testing kits for other STIs would be effective. At this stage the tests are not accurate enough for STIs such as gonorrhoea or herpes.

From The Lesbian-Approved Guide to Eating Pussy

Men suck at eating pussy. Not because they don’t like it, but because it is really fucking hard. You have to learn it. Eating good pussy is the key to just about everything in life (including getting good head later on), so it’s time we broke it down. Like this.

The secret to eating good pussy is to read the signs. You could be the best sexual mechanic in the world, but if you can’t read the emotional road signs, you’re going to end up wandering around in a desolate labial wasteland until, eventually, you drop from exhaustion, hot tears of confusion streaming down your face.

Think of eating the puss as your way of saying, “Although I am about to rock your insides with 3,000 pounds of explosives, here’s a little treat session to show you how I really feel.” Instead of a screamed “OH MY GOD!!” like her baby has been trapped under a car (which is what fucking should do), cunnilingus elicits a more splendiferous “ohmygodohmygodohmygod.” Kind of like being massaged with exotic fruits by a muscular Arab oil sheik. A good mange (that’s French for “eat,” you brutes) is like a thousand years of Saturdays or a “Calgon, take me away” ad.
Break it down!

Be Down
Don’t go down unless you’re down. Unlike fellatio, cunnilingus can never be done as a favor. Doing it when you don’t want to will only bring on the dry heaves. Eat like a pig at the trough and a lot of stupid mistakes will be forgiven.

Don’t Say High to Dry
A dry pussy is an unhappy pussy. If your fingers graze a dry bush, go back to the kissing and hugging for a while. Just make sure you actually dip your finger between the lips. Sometimes moisture gets trapped between the labia and a little fingerial coaxing is all that’s needed to get the honey dripping. Once you’re sure the beaver is wet, give it a few light, teasing strokes with your finger. There’s nothing worse than rushing into this, so make sure she’s really begging for it before you get under the covers.

Extra tip: Be like Prince and bring up a wet finger that both of you can share like a 1950’s milkshake with two straws.

Important: Don’t play your trump card too soon by putting your fingers all the way inside. This can detract from the upcoming penetration and kill the tease factor. Try to remember that 78 percent of a woman’s pleasure is about yearning. Poking it in too soon is sure to put out the fire.

Submarine Mission for You, Baby
Once she’s lathered up, it’s time to go down. Get your fingers out of there and don’t touch anything for a bit. Let your lap do a bit of grinding and get some last-minute necking in like you’re going away on a vacation. Though it’s very tempting on your way down to pull the blankets over your head like the little mole-man that you are, this is a very bad idea. It gets super hot down there and whipping the duvet off your head and gasping for air ten seconds before she comes is pretty much going to kill the mood. Start by kissing her boobs and stomach and slowly working your way down. Don’t get carried away with those stupid tits, though. That’s something you should have taken care of before the pants even came off. Right now it’s all about the stomach and inner thighs. A little bit of gentle biting is good, but a sure winner is to start at the knee and move toward the muff in a slow, shark-like swoop. Nibble your way right up to the edge of her cunt, then skip across it and head to the other knee. Repeat. Doing this a few times will get her really hot and save you a lot of pussy-eating time in the long run. When you’re just about ready to do the deed, start practicing on that weird crevice next to the lips. Don’t spend too long there or she might start to think that you think that’s the actual cunt. By now she should be dying for you to make your move. If you’re doing it right, she’ll be moaning and trying to force your head between her legs. Stretch this phase out until she looks like she’s been holding her breath for three days.
Extra Trick: Hover over the bush for about five seconds before the first lick. If you wait longer than that, she might think you’re having second thoughts because it smells bad. Of course, we all know that motherfucker smells sweeter than a bowl of steamin’ crawdaddies.

Important: Never bite the cunt in any way whatsoever. If this needs more explaining you should probably just stick to jerking off.

Parting the Red Seas
Isolate your playing field. Pubic hairs are to eating pussy what the Cavity Creeps are to dental hygiene. You’re never going to be able to identify all the parts if she looks like that PiL album That What Is Not. One hot trick is to get her to spread her lips apart so her pussy is all set up for you like a great big buffet.

The Grand Entrance
Do your first lick super slow. It’s good to groan and moan too. It shows you’re digging it while sending microscopic audiophonic vibrations right up her snapper. Start just above the anus and take it all the way to the fur. Do about a dozen of these St. Bernard licks before moving on (take it really slow, like four seconds per lick). This is a good time to figure out what kind of clit she has. If it’s real sensitive, she’ll probably convulse as you pass over it and that means you’re in for an easy ride. If there’s no reaction when you graze over her clit, she probably has one of those nerveless little pea clits and you’re in for a thirty-minute session of tongue tendonitis.

Rock the Boat
Eating pussy is so gentle it can make you feel like a bit of a fag. If you’re getting tired of being a ballerina boy, take it out on the clit. Figure out how much abuse it can take without making her uncomfortable and show the little bastard who’s boss. After all, Mr. Elusive is precisely what makes muff diving so difficult. He’s surrounded by labia and, even after you find him, all the pressure can pop him over to the side. All of a sudden you’re giving the pee hole the seeing-to of its life. Think of the clit as a tumor in a pile of earlobes. When you push down on the area, he’s the only one that can’t be squished. Once one of your tongue troopers finds him, call for reinforcements. Use your lips to get hers out of the way and focus all your attention on getting him alone. Once you find him, give him a bit of a hard time for trying to hide from you. Frisk him and give him a couple of whacks across the head. More on this punk and his bad attitude later.
Extra-important tip: The best way to stimulate the clit is to run your entire tongue over it after you isolate it from the lips. The man in the boat should feel the texture of the entire tongue pushing down on his body and his boat.

Identifying the Clit Type
After the slow licks it’s time to get this party started. There are essentially two types of clitori; ones that enjoy a serious going-over and ones that don’t. The latter suck about as much as a one-inch penis and you should dump her right away.

Extra tip: Clits come in all shapes, sizes, and sensitivities; but that doesn’t really tell you much. All of them want to be treated slow and soft at the beginning, but the only way you can tell if you can go fast at the end is by reading her reactions. This is impossible to teach, but just do the best you can. All I can tell you is convulsing means take it easy and “Oh my God” means bring it on.

Clits That Need a Serious Going-over
These are the most fun because you can be creative. Pretend your tongue is the bad cop and the clit is the guy who killed your partner. Separate him from his buddies (the lips) and suck him right up into your mouth. Now he’s on your turf. Keep him erect by creating an airtight vacuum chamber in your mouth. Slap the little bugger upside the head with one big tongue bonk. He’s not going to tell you shit because he’s a clit and he has no idea of what you’re talking about, but kick his ass anyways. After a few teasers and swirling circles, rat-a-tat-tat him senseless like a boxer whacking a speed bag. If she starts freaking out like it’s too much, ease up on the interrogation and go back to the St. Bernard licks. The vacuum is a great way to bring her to orgasm, but it’s a bit much sometimes, so mix things up with some circles around the clit and some tongue fucking.
As you’re closing in for the kill, go back to the vacuum and give the suspect a relentless head smacking. Up-and-downies are usually the most effective, but your tongue will get less tired if you throw in a few side-to-sides. When you feel the inner thighs start to shake, this is it. Be repetitive. Do NOT be creative. You’re almost home and this is not the time to start changing tactics.
Extra tip: To keep the rhythm going, try repeating a chant in your head that goes with the movement of your tongue like a Micmac Indian (hi-yi-yi-ya, hi-yi-yi-ya, hi-yi-yi-ya). Any inconsistent action may throw her off, killing the mood or at least setting you back a few minutes, which is bad for morale.

Important: Keep going several seconds after her orgasm. Remember, it isn’t over until the hands come down from above and lay you off. If she’s multiorgasmic, you’ll have to keep going until you’ve done the whole routine another four or five times. If you’re not sure what to do, just keep giving her shit until the magic hands come down.

Clits That Don’t
Some clits don’t want to be singled out and battered around. These are the boring ones that need to be treated with gentle care. Just do casual St. Bernard licks until she cums, pure and simple. If you’re getting bored try going in some different directions for a while. A good way to keep it random is to spell out different letters of the alphabet with the tip of your tongue. You could be looking at half an hour here, pal, and that can be problematic. If you go for that long and she doesn’t cum, you’re going to be in a foul mood, so if it’s too much work, move on. On the bright side, going for thirty minutes is something few people have the patience for, so sticking it out will lead to some payback when period week comes around.

The Conclusion
Once you’re done (totally finished), she’s going to want you out of there pronto because the whole area is sensitive. Instead of leaving, stick out your tongue and lay it down on her like a thick, soggy carpet. Make sure you don’t move it or anything because that can actually hurt her. Just let it sit there like a dead manta ray for about thirty seconds. Then come up and wipe your face like a pirate. You now have a good minute to get the condom on and take her from the quarters of Prince Muhammad Muhammad Saddat to the cockpit of an F-15.

EXTRA BONUS TRACKS

Getting Fired
If two hands suddenly drop from the sky and start pulling you up, you’ve just been sacked. She’ll tell you she never cums from that anyway, but the truth is you suck at sucking. Just give her a jolly good rogering and look at the whole thing as a learning experience. Later you can ask what the problem was so you can get it right the next time. If you’re really lame, you can ask for a regular play-by-play from the broadcast booth. A bit of the old “slow-down-you’re-going-to-fast-yeah-there-like-that-oh-that’s-perfect” can turn even the John Wayne Bobbitt of pussy eaters into a Doug Hart.

The Power Lunch
Nothing keeps you in the game and makes her cum harder than a mid-fuck munch. Pulling out in the middle of the race may leave her a bit confused, but it’s a great way for all you premature ejaculators to simmer down a bit and it reminds her neglected clitoris that he’s a somebody. If after a few seconds she still isn’t into it, you can save face by pretending you just couldn’t resist. Give it up and get back to the boff.

Extra tip: Unless you like the taste of your own latex-covered dink, keep your mid-fuck snacking to the upper clit region and stay away from the whole.

The Bottom
Fingers: If you are dealing with a particularly saucy vixen she may want something in her bum. A thumb gives you the best leeway, but keep in mind you are doing a raunchy thing and this should be saved until the end. Incidentally, if you’re trying to introduce a bum finger as a good thing, try eking it in during orgasm. If it doesn’t wreck everything you could have a Pavlovian response on your hands for the rest of the relationship.
Hole: We’re not going to get into licking the actual hoop in this section because if you’re into that, you’re way too advanced for this seminar and should have graduated with a PhD in pussy years ago.

Cheeks: Bum-cheek rubbing is always good. There are over five hundred thousand nerve endings on those cheeks, so giving them a good squeeze or a slap while you lick the pussy will get you instant results.

The Double Whammy
Though some idiots (like me) say it takes away from when you actually put in the dink, simultaneous fingering is a great way to totally blow her mind. Think of it as the crack cocaine of cunnilingus.

Being Knackered
Tongue exhaustion is the number-one cause of abandoned mange-ing, but there are many ways to avoid it. Like we said, using your tongue as an inanimate object is a great way to give it a rest. Stick it out as far as it can go and tense it. Then bite into it with your teeth and move it around the cunt using your neck muscles. Another solution is simply to use your fingers on the clit while you give your tongue a rest.

From Local6

A new soda promising to sexually arouse the person drinking it will soon be available in US stores. The drink, called Turn On, is made with guarana, ginseng and caffeine.

The soda was banned in France and Denmark, but makers insist it is safe and works as an aphrodisiac.

People who have tested the soda said it tastes like cherry soda. We watched a film and then afterwards I felt like my senses were more like turned on, like I could feel more, I felt more on my skin, a tester said.

Doctors have already warned that the drink is not for everyone. Children, pregnant women and people with high blood pressure and diabetes should avoid the drink, according to the report.

A warning label on the can claims, "This beverage will arouse you." Turn On is sold online for $3.50 a can and will soon be available in stores, the report said.