Many
women would argue that the very idea of being chaperoned
is restrictive and demeaning.
And yet among today's teenage girls, the chaperone has made a
surprising and - as we shall come to see - disturbing comeback.
Today's chaperone is called, in teenspeak, a third wheel. And
she is not being forced on girls by concerned or controlling adults
worried about honour and etiquette.
Type the words sex pictures into Google and it returns 83
million results in less than one-tenth of a second
The third wheel (the verb is to third wheel') has been re-invented
by the girls themselves because they want protection from the sexual
demands of their boyfriends.
When I spoke to many teenage girls in researching the subject, they
told me these demands are both 'disturbing and upsetting, and they
are certain they're being fuelled by what their boyfriends are watching
online: hard-core, explicit porn.
This deeply worrying trend is finally starting to be noticed by those
in authority.
Psychologist Dr Linda Papadopoulos has just published a government
report into the sexualisation of children, and is certain that exposure
to porn is having an adverse affect on the lives of today's teenagers.
...See the full
article. The comments are worth a read too.
Comment:
Unobjective
By Shaun
Many males find female nudity stimulating They have evolved do to so.
BUT The vast majority of them DO NOT go on to treat their women as
objects. It's simply complete rubbish and fake science to make such an
assertion.
Milton Diamond, a professor of anatomy and reproductive biology at
the University of Hawaii at Manoa has just published a study asserting
that the OPPOSITE is true and that rape and sex crimes ALWAYS reduce
wherever pornography is freely available, and there is MUCH evidence
from around the world to support this.
Do a search on Google for: Pornography, Public Acceptance and Sex
Related Crime: A Review
Objectification is specifically mentioned and there is research which
shows it simply does not happen. Note that the paper also asserts that
strict religious upbringing collerates highly with sex crime, so where's
the appropriate control on religion I wonder?
Comment:
Our biology knows what it needs
By IanG
We may believe we are far nobler and that we seek some deeper
emotional and intellectual friendship with our sexual partners, indeed,
this non-sexual bonding is usually reserved for same-sex friends and
those whom we are not sexually attracted to. However, when seeking our
soul mate we generally consider a long term partnership in terms
of physical, emotional and intellectual compatibility. If one of these
aspects remains unfulfilled then the relationship can be compromised -
the eye can wander in search of more physically appealing partners, the
mind may seek new challenges or like-minded souls and, as a consequence,
the emotional ties, the things we call love and trust that bind soul
mates together, can become strained.
It may be convenient for some to consider the mind and body as
separate entities but, we are one whole, one complete being. Indeed, the
idea that the flesh may be weak while the spirit is strong is deeply
flawed. The flesh is controlled by the spirit, the psyche, the thought,
the reflex, our hopes and dreams. We do as our mind directs (and often
subconsciously). The body is but a vessel for the mind and, despite
everything society may believe, our mind is but biology and our biology
knows what it needs not just for our personal survival but for the
survival of our very species and what's best for our offspring.
In terms of sexuality, only rapists (and perhaps traffickers/pimps)
treat other people as sex objects to be used and abused. Where there's
mutual attraction or some mutually beneficial arrangement (i.e.
partnerships and/or paid-for sexual encounters') there's no
objectification but, indeed, a degree of mutual respect, social
interaction, even pleasure in the fulfilling of some inherent
socio-sexual need for all parties involved (that maybe sexual for one
and, perhaps, monetary for the other but, it could be emotional,
re-humanising, de-fusing and satisfying nonetheless).
And it should be stressed that it is far better for hormone-filled
young lads to work off their excess testosterone with pictures of naked
ladies than getting their 14-17 y/o girlfriends pregnant - isn't it?
Our sexuality is only something we alone can control and, how we
choose to do that is our business alone. It should be noted that
pornography has always been part of human society. And just because some
religiously deluded twits in the middle of the 19th century thought they
could protect children by turning sexually explicit materials into
'obscenity' has done nothing to protect children from sexual abuse and,
indeed, has only increased their naivety and vulnerability to sexual
exploitation and abuse.
Comment:
Boys Abusing Women
9th March 2010.
By Dan
Just been reading all the crap on the Daily Mail.
Underlying all this is the belief that male sexuality, and in
particular young male sexuality is dangerous, sexist and a threat to
women. Young boys looking at pictures of nude women in magazines is
apparently abusing women.